Many neurodiverse people experience intrusive thoughts - often intense, unwanted, and deeply unsettling. It’s easy to assume that these thoughts say something meaningful about who we are. But they don’t.

This article explores the difference between deliberate thinking and intrusive mental noise, unpacking the myth of “thought crime” and why having a thought is not the same as acting on it. You’ll learn why the brain sometimes generates the very scenarios we fear most - and how to respond in a way that creates space, reduces anxiety, and reconnects you with your actual values.

If you’ve ever worried, “What does it mean that I thought that?”, this is for you.

For eleven years, they had been describing the same moments in completely different ways.

She would go to bed certain something had gone wrong between them. He would go to bed certain everything was fine. Both of them were telling the truth. Both of them were exhausted. And neither of them had ever been given a framework that could explain why two people who genuinely loved each other kept arriving at such different versions of the same day.

That is the quiet devastation at the heart of many neurodiverse relationships. Not cruelty. Not indifference. Just two people whose brains process the world so differently that even shared experiences do not feel shared.

If that gap sounds familiar to you, there is something important to know: it has a name, it is well understood, and there is real support available.

You’re trying to be heard, but somehow your words feel like they’re bouncing off a wall. In relationships, shouting louder doesn’t make your partner listen - it often makes connection impossible. Couples therapy shows that the secret to being understood isn’t volume, it’s gentleness: starting conversations calmly, with curiosity, and a focus on feelings instead of blame.

Heated argument? Before you scream, try ice cream. Learn how simple grounding exercises and vagus nerve techniques can help you manage flooding, calm your body, and reconnect with your partner.

You love your partner, but money fights are driving a wedge between you. Find out how marriage counselling can help you and your partner handle finances as a team.

Being in a relationship is hard enough - add physical distance, time zone differences or long work rosters, and cracks can form quickly. Whether you're in a long-distance relationship, managing FIFO life, or juggling chaotic schedules, it’s easy for connection to get lost. At Lighthouse Relationships, we offer online relationship counselling to help you bridge the emotional gap and stay strong together, no matter the distance.

When your relationship feels stuck or distant, finding the right couples therapist can be life-changing. But in a city like Brisbane, where do you start? At Lighthouse Relationships, we help couples navigate conflict, rebuild trust, and reconnect. Here’s how to choose the right couples therapy for your needs - and why the right fit matters.

Welcoming a new baby is one of life’s most beautiful milestones -but it can also turn your marriage upside down. Between sleepless nights, shifting roles, and the constant hum of responsibility, it’s easy to lose touch with each other. At Lighthouse Relationships, we know how hard this stage can be. That’s why we offer marriage counselling tailored to the unique pressures faced by new parents -helping you find your way back to each other.

Every relationship hits rough patches - moments where communication breaks down, trust feels fragile, and you wonder if things will ever feel easy again. At Lighthouse Relationships, we believe conflict doesn’t have to be the end of the road. With the right support, it can become the turning point. In this article, we’ll show you how relationship counselling can help you move from disconnection to genuine connection - rebuilding trust, improving communication, and helping love feel safe again.

A strong relationship starts with truly knowing your partner. Building Love Maps, a key concept in Gottman Method Couples Therapy - which can be offered equally effectively online as face-to-face - helps couples deepen their connection and navigate challenges together. Learn how to create a lasting bond with practical insights you can start using today.

Looking to improve your relationship but can't find the time for in-person therapy? Telehealth therapy for couples could be the solution. Learn how videoconferencing is helping couples overcome challenges, offering the same benefits as traditional face-to-face sessions. Explore the flexibility, privacy, and affordability of telehealth relationship counselling to see if it's the right fit for you and your partner. Ready to start your journey?

What are the benefits of online Gottman therapy, (the type of couples therapy offered at Lighthouse Relationships)? Is it possible to strengthen your bond from the comfort of home? How does virtual couples counseling stack up against face to face? Read on to find out more.

This episode unpacks the shifts and changes that relationships undergo as we transition from working life to retirement. Nahum offers deep insights into how these changes can impact our identity and intimacy, and shares practical strategies for strengthening connections and navigating conflicts. Whether you're looking to deepen your relationship or understand the complexities of love in your Prime Time and retirement, this conversation is packed with valuable advice and real-world solutions.

Drawing on the latest research, Kate Cavdarski shows there is more than just 'good logic' behind undertaking pre-marriage education.

Can you sleep your way to a better relationship? Or does a better relationship makes for better sleep? Psychologist Nahum Kozak lifts the covers on these questions and others.

Well, if you’re considering couples therapy – kudos to you. You’ve realised there are some issues where it’s best to get help (just as you might call a dentist for a sore tooth, or a plumber for a burst pipe). Having made that choice, you want to ensure your time and money are well spent. So, we’ve put together three tips to help you make the right choice first time.

It's been dubbed the "grey divorce" or "silver separation" revolution.

Couples in their 50s or older are calling it quits on decades of commitment and heading into their senior years alone. Nahum Kozak chats with ABC news about this trend in relationships and strategies around how to stay connected.

We do everything we can to prepare for this precious new life, because we want our baby to be born into a home filled with safety and love. One of the most important aspects of creating that love-filled home is taking care of the parents’ relationship. So, how can you successfully make the transition from partners to parents? Here are five evidence-based approaches to support you in those first few years.

How healthy is your relationship? Nahum Kozak, Senior Psychologist and regular relationship expert, chats with Mamamia about what makes a relationship happy, healthy and strong.

Is there such a thing as bad timing in relationships? Couples Therapist, Megan Kozak, chats with Triple J’s The Hook Up about whether timing actually makes a difference or whether it's just a bit of a cop out!